About Me
Pauline Ngure
A legal secretary, Pauline Ngure was born and raised in Kenya. Now the mother of two boys, Pauline endured ten years of humiliating torture from a violently abusive husband and the complicit Kenya police. She was given asylum by the Canadian government after the Kenya government would not protect her and her children from her husband.
Finding faith, hope, and strength in her God, women rights organizations and her family who risked their own safety to ensure hers, she fled Kenya to a neighbouring country where she sought and found not only a refuge in Canada, but also a whole new future for herself and the boys.
An ugly story with a beautiful ending, this story will not only inspire, but also instruct the reader as to what can and should be done in the face of spousal abuse and government disinterest.
Make the move! You cannot believe how things will happen in your favour.
- As a survivor of domestic violence I know there is hope out there. All you need is one person, perhaps two, who will listen, understand, and help.
- If your husband is a wife batterer, he will never change. I know this from sad experience.
- Do not think of revenge. It does not pay and you could end up suffering more. Leave.
- If he is a threat to your life and that of your children, do not wait for him to chop off your legs or gouge out your eyes as we have witnessed in Kenya. Leave. Perhaps something that extreme does not happen in North America and if it does, at least those who does it faces the full force of the law unlike in Kenya where we practice the rule of the jungle. It doesn’t matter; even one bruise is one bruise too many. Leave.
- Do not stay because you think your children must have a father. What’s better? An abusive father or no father at all? What’s better? A physically or emotionally scarred mother or a mom who happens to be single? Many single women have brought up responsible children, children who respect their mothers, children who would not allow anyone to hurt their mother, children who would never hurt a woman. But if you bring them up in a home where they always see their father beating their mother, they are being trained to become wife batterer and child abusers. Protect your children and your children’s children. Save your little ones from an abusive home. Leave.